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Make the Rest Your Best w/ Laurie Wright

Make the Rest Your Best w/ Laurie Wright

December 10, 2019

Welcome to the show!

I know you are going to enjoy this episode with my friend Laurie Wright.  Laurie has found her voice in such a big way. 

In today's episode we talk about her journey and how it led her to the work she does today, helping people over 40 find the way to make the second half of their life their best.

Laurie and I also discuss voice and how technology was helpful to her in mastering liking her voice and getting more comfortable using her voice and getting more and more visible.

 

 

Guest Bio

Laurie Wright, also known as Not Your Average Grandma, likes to call herself the Queen of midlife transformations, after scoring a hatrick by having one in 3 different categories in the past 13 years: love, health and career.  

At age 47, she faced divorce after being married for 25 years, at 55 her realization that her arms had turned into bat wings led her to get in the best shape of her life, and most recently, at age 60, she left her corporate career for good and took her part-time passion of coaching full time.

Her mission is to help other middle-aged women stop settling for a life they don’t want and figure out what they do want, so they are poised to enter their next chapter with renewed passion, purpose and focus. She has created a program called “Make the Rest Your Best.” where she teaches her MOJOO Method system in a guided, interactive way that offers support and accountability to help accelerate the transformation process. She believes everyone is here for a reason and what she loves most is to lead them to it.

 

Moving Into Making People Feel w/ Amelia Anderson

Moving Into Making People Feel w/ Amelia Anderson

December 3, 2019

Welcome to the show!

You are in for a real treat today!  One of my favorite people is with me on the show today.  I had the pleasure of working with my guest, Amelia Anderson a few months back.  Amelia is such a joy to listen to and is doing some amazing work in the world, I'm so delighted she was willing to come on the show.

Amelia and I spend time talking about her global work through AWAR, the non-profit she co-founded,

We also talk about change in the workplace and what it will take to create a space for more women at the table,

We also talk about the voice and the power of making people feel with your voice.

I know you are going to love this episode!

 

Guest Bio

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Amelia G. Anderson

Biography

Amelia Anderson is a seasoned corporate finance executive and a passionate advocate for gender equality. Amelia has forged a reputation across the global aviation industry as a thought leader focused on actionable strategies to drive diversity & inclusion.

Amelia is Co-founder and President of Advancing Women in Aviation Roundtable (AWAR), a non-profit founded in 2015 to work with CEOs and other senior aviation executives around the globe to promote the development and advancement of women leaders. AWAR produces its signature Leaders Luncheons on multiple continents each year, and its participants and sponsors include many of the leading organizations in the global aviation industry.  Amelia also leads numerous private workshops and other roundtable events, delivers keynote presentations, and serves on a range of industry panels across the sector each year.

Amelia currently serves as Chair of the Dublin City University Aviation Industry “Year of Inclusion” Advisory Committee, a multi-sector working group that kicked off in June 2019. This committee will spend a year studying the D&I challenges facing Ireland’s critical aviation industry, and developing recommendations, tool kits and thought leadership publications to address them.

Amelia retired from her 30-year corporate finance career in November 2018, most recently serving as Managing Director, Assistant Treasurer of American Airlines. American Airlines is the largest airline in the world, with 2018 total revenue of $44.5 billion. At American, Amelia and her team executed over $50 billion of best-in-class transactions, including financing 500+ new aircraft, and were named the industry’s Airline Treasury Team of the Year multiple times.

Amelia also served as Co-chair of the American Airlines Women’s Leadership Program. In this role, Amelia steered the transformation of the initiative from a purely networking focus to a strategic, mission-driven program, integrated with other leadership pipeline functions and reaching beyond headquarters into flight operations, technical operations, airports, and international operations.

In 2017, Amelia was honored to be named the inaugural recipient of the Aviation Woman of the Year award by Airfinance Journal, in recognition of her global leadership in both aviation finance and diversity & inclusion.

Amelia holds a BS degree in Finance and Economics from the University of Alabama in Huntsville, and an MBA degree in Corporate Finance from Georgia State University in Atlanta. Amelia, her husband Robert and their two teenage daughters reside in Coppell, Texas.

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How to Make an Impact with Your Voice

How to Make an Impact with Your Voice

November 25, 2019

Welcome to the show!

I'm very excited to roll this episode out for you this Thanksgiving week.  I know many of you are not in the U.S. but for those of you who are, here is a powerful one to listen to when you are driving!

Actually, it's powerful no matter what.  In today's episode I'm talking about what you need to do to make a bigger impact with your voice.  Who doesn't want to make a bigger impact with every word they speak?

Here's the thing, in today's episode I'm going over several techniques to help you make a bigger impact, but the truth is, some of what I have to say may surprise you!

Clarity in Your Message Delivery, The Inverted Funnel

Clarity in Your Message Delivery, The Inverted Funnel

November 19, 2019

Welcome to the show!

 

Today I'm talking about words.  I know I don't normally talk about words so much but I have a lot of people I'm working with that tend to get a little bit in the weeds on words.  What I mean is, they dump way too much information, get bogged down in the details and then they lose us.  If this is you then you want to make sure and stay tuned.

Why is it a problem?  Well first and foremost I bet you are frustrated with people not having a clue what you are talking about but second and most importantly, you can't captivate the room if you are in a data dump.

Today I'm going to shift all of that for you with a process I call the inverted funnel.

If you want to join my next group program Black Friday special just go to www.captivatetheroom.com/pvoice and I can't wait to work with you!

Finding Fabulous Over 40 with Hilary Rank

Finding Fabulous Over 40 with Hilary Rank

October 28, 2019

Welcome to the show!

Join me today as I interview Hilary Rank, a health and wellness coach who helps women go from feeling sluggish and hopeless to fit & fabulous so they will start looking, thinking and feeling happy, healthy and sexy. Men, don't think you're excluded! Listen in to discover how you feel affects your voice and your story.

Don't forget: I'm looking for course testers!

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Hilary Rank is a Health & Wellness Coach for women over 40 and creator of the Balanced Effect Method. She helps women balance their hormones and get out of the “Frustrated and Frumpy Over 40 Trap” which leaves them feeling confused about what diet or program to follow, down on themselves, sluggish and hopeless to Fit & Fabulous so they will start looking, thinking and feeling happy, healthy and sexy.

 

Apply here for the 21 Day Energy Reset beta course: http://bit.ly/energyresetbeta

 

You can also find Hilary at: 

https://healthybyhilary.com/

Join her Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/newevolutionofhealthyover40/

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Power and the Neutral Voice

Power and the Neutral Voice

October 21, 2019

Welcome to the show!

Do you find yourself struggling with what you really need to say - beating around the bush? That's not the best reveal of who you are and actually creates a negative story. Tune in today to learn how to say what you need to say with the appropriate emotion.

**Special announcements**

  1. There is one spot open in my group coaching. Send me an email tracy@captivatetheroom.com if you're interested. This is the last time I will be running my group sessions in this format. 
  2. I need course testers! If you are interested in taking a $1,000 coaching course for free - hands-on, working with me - in exchange for a testimonial, email me. This is different than the live-coaching group. This will be a video course based around building connections, removing vocals masks, and linking that to the psychology of the voice story. Email: tracy@captivatetheroom.com

Back to today's episodes: 

This is a process. There is a lot of life rolled in; a lot of moving parts and pieces. In the past month, through several different personal instances, I have seen a lot of needing to remove emotion from the voice. This may be one of the most challenging things to teach you to do - removing the emotion from your voice (such as passive-aggressiveness). This emotion in your voice could be ego, aggressive, punishing, domineering, or any number of negative emotions that end up coming through your tone. You're communication from a place of a pile-up of negative experiences that are coming out through your tone in an attempt to wield power and validation where you may otherwise feel powerless. You could be indirectly saying what you need and want through your tone, in the hopes that they'll "get it." 

 

Not saying what we need to say builds this up. Being worried about perception builds this up. It's a mask. You're putting something in place that is going to keep you from getting what you're trying to accomplish. Through this process of removing the negative emotion, we are trying to create the best version of you

Ask yourself:

Do I need to say this?

Is this going to serve them and serve their highest good? 

What is my purpose in saying this?

Is your tone lining up with what you're saying, or is your tone communicating something your words are not?

Say what you need to say. Start reframing how and what we're saying, and say it with neutrality. There's this saying: "Restraint of pen and tongue." I can't say that I have never said things I don't regret, or with a negative tone. I have; I'm human. I make a concentrated effort, however, to be very careful about what I say and with what tone because once it is out there in the world, you can't take it back. 

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The Joyful Approach with Joy Dushey

The Joyful Approach with Joy Dushey

October 14, 2019

Welcome to the show!

Today's guest is Joy Dushey, creator of The Joyful Approach. 

Joy Dushey  is a holistic life guide and breathwork energy healer utilizing a variety of supportive esoteric modalities: crystals, reiki, sound healing, somatics, intuitive therapeutic coaching, and Mother Nature herself. Joy lives boldly in her core desire to help inspire growth in others and create positive impact in the world by sharing what’s worked well for her. Her greatest joy is to give others a means to awaken to their own great love, joy, and purpose.

After suffering for years with sadness, PTSD & depression, and an Ischemic stroke due to struggling with grief and illness from the tragic loss of her brother, Joy created The Joyful Approach. The Joyful Approach is a life system that combines the upgrading of practical daily disciplines around eating, sleeping, exercising, breathing, and thinking, with deeper spiritual work  addressing core values, self-love, intentionality, and authenticity.  The approach allows for living in true flow of life and for the unfolding of our best and highest selves. 

 We can live in an embodied way with love, joy, and freedom. 

We can live in alignment and wholeness and in who we truly are.

we can come home to our true essence. 

 

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Cold Calling and Your Voice

Cold Calling and Your Voice

October 7, 2019

Do you want to make more money? Of course! ;-) Today, we're focusing on cold calling and how to make sure what you're putting out is what is going to take your bank account to the next level. 

This is an episode for people in sales, entrepreneurs who have to call on other businesses, or even from the perspective of asking for a raise or pitching an idea to your boss. 

What do people hear when they hear you? 

You have to come to terms with perception-reception. The number of times people think they're putting something out but we're receiving it differently blows my mind. Your subconscious is always going to trick you. Why would your psychology of the voice tell you that you're either messing up or rocking it if it's not the case? The subconscious' number one goal is to protect the heart. Voice is the orchestra of the heart. If it can convince you you're doing a great job when playing small, you'll continue to play small and stay safe. 

You have to release the outcome. If you're worried about the sale or the raise, your voice will convey that. Control is an illusion. You're wrecking your chances by trying to control the outcome or focusing on the end result of making the sale or getting the raise. You can practice this by approaching this as if you were calling someone you know, like, and trust; a good friend. The foreshadowing in your voice - stiffness, disconnected, you don't believe I'm going to buy, you don't really care about me, you want to get to the sale, you're not hearing me, etc. - all comes out in the disconnect found in your voice when I'm receiving your message. You talk to them as if you care about them. When you relax and have a conversation, the right things are going to come to your brain and connect with your audience. You talk about building relationships yet you talk AT people. You build relationships by talking TO people. There's an exponential difference. 

Vocal energy comes up when we talk about selling. My goal is not to turn you into me. My goal is to turn you into the best version of yourself. How do you feel when talking about what you're selling? Are you excited? Passionate? Tap into that! When you commit to who you really are and reveal that passion and enthusiasm, it draws in your audience. You won't be the "infomercial guy." Reveal how you feel and watch what changes. You be you. Don't let them determine how the call is going to go - don't drop down to their level if they're low energy. You have to maintain the best version of you at all times, and they will meet you at your level. 

Until next time, you know what to do. Get out there and speak your truth, just do it beautifully. 

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Voice of a Leader

Voice of a Leader

September 30, 2019

What will set you apart as a leader in your voice? Start paying attention to the leaders you look up to and see if you can find these qualities in them.

TONE of voice. This is literally rolling the emotions in so that we can hear it. Sometimes this means saying what you need to say with a tone to make your feelings clear. Sometimes this not verbally saying what you need to say, but instead saying it with your tone. Leaders don't have a problem saying what they need to say. There's no dancing around. A leader will say exactly what needs to be accomplished in words and tone. Leaders take a neutral tone. There is not irritation, passive-aggressiveness, sarcasm, etc. present in their tone, regardless of whether or not they feel it. You lose your power the moment you roll emotion into your tone. 

They don't talk AT you, they talk TO you. Instead of "pushing" the conversation, they are connecting with you, present in the moment instead of barking orders at you and repelling you. They have the ability to make an emotional connection. Leaders make you feel heard - ex: I/You phrases.

Leaders reveal to you who they are but they are not working in an emotional state 100% of the time. They are calm when they speak, even if they are upset. They're not trying to prove anything. They are calm and collected, regardless of the situation and what may be going on around them. Using these techniques have the power to transform not on your business interactions, but your personal relationships as well. 

 Until next time, you know what to do. Get out there and speak your truth, just do it beautifully. 

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Delivering an Emotional Speech

Delivering an Emotional Speech

September 23, 2019

I am running another round of my group voice program - more solo time with me, and likely the last time to get involved with one this year and help reach your voice goals.
8-week group training. The date will be set based on the group's availability.

About a week ago, I was called upon to write and deliver a very special speech. My mother passed away about 10 days ago. My father had passed away 5 years ago. I spoke at his funeral and that was before I ever started this show. I wanted to speak at my mother's funeral. I've been asked about writing for funeral speeches as well as delivering them at the actual funeral. I wanted to honor my mother and be true to who I was, and our relationship. Everyone in my family gets a little nervous when I'm handed a microphone. I was the youngest of four and was the last to speak at the funeral. My oldest brother didn't speak but my older two sisters did and had wonderful things to say.

I want to first discuss my process. This felt high stakes to me. I didn't want to miss anything or forget anything. I wanted to get this right. The day after I found out my mother had passed, I started jotting down notes anytime an idea, memory, or thought would pop into my head. I wrote my first draft the night before the funeral. This was only over the course of a couple of days, so it's not a lengthy process. In comparison, my oldest sister sat down and struggled with what to write in the moment/under pressure. My middle sister also struggled with what to write, but she ended up writing it almost like a letter to Mom.

I had split-second moments where I questioned what I had to say but I knew I had to be real, speak from the heart, and say what was on my heart, without worrying what people may be thinking. I had to become 100% committed to my message and release the outcome. It was about me and honoring my mom.

To put this in perspective for your own presentation, where is your allegiance? To what people will think, or to delivering a message, teaching certain content, commitment to a mission, etc.? What is in your heart? You've got to connect to that message and speak from the heart.

To be clear, nothing in this speech was abusive. This is not a permission slip to be abusive with your message. There were definitely things I could have said that would be negative, but why would I do that? Those things are long forgotten and forgiven. What did I want to say to my audience? My audience was my mother. What did I want her to know? Ask yourself: what does my audience need to hear from my heart?

I opened and closed with a connection. I took my notes I'd been writing and made them into this speech. I opened my presentation regarding a post my sister had written about my mother. At the end of my speech, I circled back around to this post and put my own spin on you. You always want to open with a startling statement, fact or a story. Structurally, next it would be:
Credibility statement
tell us what you're going to tell us
2-3 body parts with a transition
transition into conclusion

In this particular speech, I connected, introduced myself, thanked my siblings, and started with the stories and the memories (3-5). I talked about grace and forgiveness. I really spoke from the heart of who I was and what our relationship was.
I spoke about our challenges in our relationship in a positive way, from a perspective of grace and forgiveness which is what my mom was all about.

I linked: what did I want to say to my mother and what did I want to say to these people here who loved my mother?

I never type out a full presentation but I did for this and it was 3 pages long. I used heavier notes than usual instead of my typical bullet points. I knew it was going to take everything I had to not fall apart.

Don't forget to breathe and slow down; regulate your breathing and focus on it when needed (such as difficult parts). This should be worked on prior because it is not something you can whip out in the moment without prior practice. I leaned into vocal variety, connection to my message, and connection to my content; bringing the words to life and honoring my mother with them.

Don't try to feed off the audience; they could be feeding you the wrong thing. Be mind, body, voice connected to your message. Be knowledgeable. Release the outcome. Be in the moment. Notice your audience but don't become affected by them.

Until next time, you know what to do. Get out there and speak your truth, just do it beautifully. 

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