Captivate the Room
Keep All Eyes on You When You Speak

Keep All Eyes on You When You Speak

June 27, 2019

Welcome to the podcast!

 

Today I've got a great episode for you, How to Keep All Eyes on You When You Speak.  That doesn't even mean standing on a stage speak, that means every time you open your mouth do people listen, do they keep all eyes on you?

Most people go about this the wrong way, that's why I want to teach exactly what it takes for you to really have all eyes on you.  I want you to command the space and make an impact with your words and message.

It's easier than you think to captivate the room.  You just need to know the technique.  Today, we are covering a lot of it.

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People Pleasing in Voice and Communication Isn’t Serving Anyone

People Pleasing in Voice and Communication Isn’t Serving Anyone

June 24, 2019

Welcome to the show!

 

Join me today for part two of a four-part series, discovering how to limit noise in your communication and high-stakes relationships. We'll begin with people pleasing and there is a lot to unpack here. 

People pleasing is not only limiting your entire existence but they significantly affect your voice, communication, freedom, and happiness. 

People pleasing is the number one struggle many of my client's have.  When we try to please other's we lose.  From a voice perspective you definitely lose because you aren't revealing who you really are and it's clear in your sound.  In fact, it's so clear that you aren't revealing who you are that we pass you by.

But it's in communication that people pleasing can really wreak havoc.  Many people do this and it's even more innate in women although men can be big people pleasers.  The bottom line, you'll never have the freedom you want, the relationship you want, command the presence you want until you can start to be okay with saying what you want and trusting that it's going to be okay.

Susie Connerley is back for more great advice and discussion. 

 

Susie Connerley is a Rapid Transformational Therapist who has been working in the wellness arena for 11 years to maximize results, help people achieve real change and become more of who they truly are. With a background in psychology, energy therapy, and meditation, she has a unique ability to see the origin of where people are shutting themselves down and help them come into full empowerment. Susie is on a mission to revolutionize the way we communicate in our relationships by connecting to who we truly are and finding and freeing our voices for good.

 

Prior episodes:

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Get out there and speak your truth; just do it beautifully.

Don't forget! The LAST round of my 8-week, live coaching, online program - Voices of Success - begins soon! Find out more: https://captivatetheroom.com/vos8/

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How Expectations Effect Your Voice

How Expectations Effect Your Voice

June 17, 2019

Welcome to the show!

 

Join me today for part one of a four-part series, discovering how to limit noise in your communication and high-stakes relationships. We'll begin with expectations. 

Expectations significantly affect your voice, communication, freedom, and happiness. 

Susie Connerley is back for more great advice and discussion. 

Expectations: A belief that someone will or should achieve something. 

We get expectations from experiences we had growing up that are either fulfilled or unfulfilled. All of our habits and beliefs are stored in our subconscious mind and leads to our conditioning. Remember: the neurons that are wired together, fire together. 

Ask yourself: what kind of expectations do you get yourself into with other people? Once you work through your own, you free other people of your unconscious expectations of them. Expectations don't need to be negative but you need to be aware of where they are coming from and what you are seeking with them: comfort? Control? It's always about the mental and emotional constructs. Is it unreasonable to have expectations? In truthfulness, if you don't want to be disappointed, you need to not have expectations; realize that you do not have any control over anyone else and their behavior or feelings.

Susie Connerley is a Rapid Transformational Therapist who has been working in the wellness arena for 11 years to maximize results, help people achieve real change and become more of who they truly are. With a background in psychology, energy therapy, and meditation, she has a unique ability to see the origin of where people are shutting themselves down and help them come into full empowerment. Susie is on a mission to revolutionize the way we communicate in our relationships by connecting to who we truly are and finding and freeing our voices for good.

 

Prior episodes:

https://captivatetheroom.com/susie/

 

Get out there and speak your truth; just do it beautifully.

Don't forget! The next round of my 8-week, live coaching, online program - Voices of Success - begins soon! Find out more: https://captivatetheroom.com/vos8/

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Getting Rid of Voice Masks, Getting to the Next Level of Success

Getting Rid of Voice Masks, Getting to the Next Level of Success

June 14, 2019

Welcome to the show!

 Do you want to be a captivating movement maker?

There are three things you need to do:
1) We have to be able to connect with you and let them in.
2) You have to reveal who you are.
3) You have to reveal how you feel.

Have you considered how voice masks, barriers, and habits are keeping you from connecting with your audience and your next level? Listen to today's episode as we unpack these issues: voice masks out, success in.

Every person has vocal habits. They may be things you don't even think about or know about. Some of the more common or obvious ones include: articulation issues, volume (too loud/too soft), pace (too fast/too slow), struggling to find the words, being stuck in your head, and pronunciation and/or enunciation. Even though those seem like obvious issues to be able to resolve, there are often underlying issues to address: voice barriers. Barriers are akin to bulletproof glass. They keep us from connecting with our audience. They are put in by your conscious to keep you safe, just like bulletproof glass.

People pleasing is a big problem for voice barriers. I also refer to them as voice masks; either way, they are something you hide behind. It can also include: needing to prove, asking for permission, being analytical, being a perfectionist, and being outcome driven. Playing small, not letting us in, not letting us know who you really are is often linked to fear of success. 

Ultimately, you're losing out on the next level of success because you're hiding behind these masks. If you really want to own the room, we have to first look at the foundational elements. If you want people to do what you want them to do, data is not going to compel them. They need to feel it. Part of it is knowing who you are and part of it is me knowing what I'm looking for, what I'm trying to find as an audience member. 

We don't have to change who you are. We just have to remove the mask from your voice. You put something in place that you believe will get you what you want but it's the very thing that will keep you from getting what you want. These masks are driven internally by protection but they ultimately prevent connection.

Masks, like bulletproof glass, are clear and sometimes they can be very thick. There are often multiple layers standing in between you as the speaker and me as the audience member. How do we start removing these masks and revealing who we are? Awareness. Being aware of what you're doing is a huge part. Voice work is much bigger than just getting rid of bad voice habits. There is no amount of warming up your voice that is going to get rid of bad voice habits.
Why are you going to warm up what's not working anyway? We have to fix these things at the root cause, the barrier. Of course we have to look at muscle memory and technical voice work, but not forever.

I find success when I lean into what I know, even without warming up:
Reveal how I feel
No barriers
Create a Connection
5 Elements
Voice Journey

Get out there and speak your truth; just do it beautifully.

Don't forget! The next round of my 8-week,live coaching, online program - Voices of Success - begins soon! Find out more: https://captivatetheroom.com/vos8/

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Revealing the Best Version of You with Rob

Revealing the Best Version of You with Rob

June 11, 2019

Welcome to the show!

 

Listen in on today's coaching session with Rob where I'll help him reveal the best version of himself.

Get out there and speak your truth; just do it beautifully.

Don't forget! The next round of my 8-week, Voices of Success - the live coaching, online program begins soon! Find out more: https://captivatetheroom.com/vos8/

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7 Seconds to Captivate

7 Seconds to Captivate

June 7, 2019

Welcome to the show!

Every 7 seconds, our brain tells us to check out. If you're not using your voice in a way to captivate, you're giving your audience permission to check out. Once you lose them, it is incredibly difficult to get them back.

Today, we'll look at what it takes to captivate in those first 7 seconds and beyond: creating unpredictability with your voice.

Within the first 30 seconds that we hear your voice, we are determining everything about you. This is one of the reasons why the voice is so important. If your voice is full of masks and barriers, we're going to determine who you are based on what we hear and it may not be the best version of yourself.

1) Don't lose us
2) If you do, you'll have to work even harder to get us back as an audience member.

You're potentially focusing on your words only to keep my attention. Yes, you need the correct words and an attention getter, but you need vocal unpredictability from the start. 

Captivating the room is about unpredictability; you never know where I'm going to go next. Take your audience on a journey. This does not mean that every 7 seconds you must make a shift, but it should be close. Work up to it: you start rolling stuff in. You start being more unpredictable. You start creating more of a journey; build from there.

You can have the best writer - the best content - on earth, but if you're not bringing those words to life, creating unpredictability, and taking me on a journey, you're not going to captivate me. When I know how you feel I can connect with you. I learn how you feel through the use of vocal variety. Start rolling in those 5 elements. What do you need to roll in that will reveal how you feel? Just start with one and build from there; make your journey bigger, broader, and better.

Get out there and speak your truth; just do it beautifully.

Don't forget! The next round of my 8-week, Voices of Success - the live coaching, online program begins soon! Find out more: https://captivatetheroom.com/vos8/

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Voice Aversions

Voice Aversions

June 4, 2019

Welcome to the show!

We all have aversions to certain vocal variety elements. These can limit your clients, audience, opportunities, and your income.

Announcement: Voices of Success is about to launch again - my 8 week, live, online voice coaching program. This is small group voice coaching where we will rewrite the psychology of your voice. Check out more information on my website under the "Work with Me" tab.

Everybody has a go-to technique and everyone has an aversion. I see the greatest aversions in speed and volume: slow/fast and high/low.

You shouldn't have a go-to; you should use all five elements to vary your vocal elements. Find a balance with your vocal techniques to avoid repelling those in your audience who have an aversion to your "go-to" vocal element. Figure out your go-to and start rolling in the opposite. This will help get you to the next level in your vocal technique.

Get out there and speak your truth; just do it beautifully. 

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Rewriting the Voice Story from the Inside Out

Rewriting the Voice Story from the Inside Out

May 31, 2019

Rewriting the Voice Story from the Inside Out

Welcome to the show!

Today's episode is a voice coaching episode and I will be analyzing our guest's voice. Our guest, Leah Carey, has an exceptionally fascinating field of work: sexual communication coach. She uses her experience and her voice on her podcast, Good Girls Talk About Sex, to work with women and couples to figure out what it is they want in the bedroom and how to advocate for that (and get it!).

You will not see our guest but understand that it still takes a certain level of vulnerability to have your voice analyzed by a complete stranger.  Prior to this interview, I had only spoken with her for 3 minutes. Keep in mind while listening that I have no notes, no idea what I will hear, write or fix during this episode. Listen along as Leah describes her journey from no idea how to express herself to being comfortable to advocating for herself to now working with me to make the outside voice match the inside transformation she’s had.

The voice is the orchestra of the heart. In this episode I will help Leah reach her potential and reveal how she truly feels through her voice.

Just as you would consult a medical professional for personal medical needs, keep in mind that diagnoses and techniques provided in this coaching session are not a one-size-fits-all.

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Podcast: Good Girls Talk About Sex - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/good-girls-talk-about-sex/id1436501617

 

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How to Command Authority with Your Voice

How to Command Authority with Your Voice

May 27, 2019

Welcome to the show!

Are you missing opportunities to confidently express your ideas in a way that makes people want to listen? 

How do you command the room when everyone around you is loud, fast and trying to stand out from the crowd?

Listen to today's podcast to learn about what commanding authority is, what it isn't, and how you can command authority with your voice. 

Commanding the room is not:

Pushing, shoving, holding on tight, loud, masked, or arrogant.

Think about C Suites you may know: they have mastered the ability to let people in and get them to listen without shoving it at people.

Ask yourself:

Are you commanding authority or controlling through fear?

Do you have the respect of your peers and audience?

 

What does it take?

Vocal energy - the right kind; the best version of your own personal, vocal energy.

Pushing vs. Pulling:

You can push but incorporate pull. Push repels. Pull cares.

Say what you want and need to say without judgment. Own the space. Stay in the now.  Don’t let yourself be pulled into past or future worries.

Own and commit to what you're saying.

Even if you're not sure about an answer, own it and let your audience know you'll find out.

Knock it out of the park when people hear you speak.

 

Revealing Who You Are:

This is found in your words.

Which words do you choose? How do you use them?

Reveal how you feel: this takes courage and is about vocal variety, letting people in.

It is safer to be loud, pushy, arrogant and keep people at arm's length. This creates the cycle of come here/go away.

You can look at it from a technical standpoint and consider the 5 technical elements: Pause, Loud/Quite, Slow/Fast, Pitch, Play

OR

Consider if you are revealing to your audience how you feel.

Express the emotion with your voice: sadness, joy, anger, frustration, inspiration, passion, expectation, etc. with the use of vocal variety.

Take people on a journey. This is the ultimate nugget of commanding authority and is owning your space, voice, and story in a more vulnerable way.

 

How do you know you're commanding?

When you can be comfortable in the stillness, in being heard, in the pause, silence, and stillness with eyes on you.

When you can stop trying; when you can release the grip on the outcome and worry about what others think of you. Then you are able to own the space and command authority.

 

Commanding authority happens from the stage but can also happen in your cubicle, on sales calls, and in relationships. It's not about domination. It's about owning and revealing.

 

Ask yourself:

Which of those do you do?

Which of those do you not do?

Which elements can you start adding in to get to the next level?

 

Get out there and speak your truth; just do it beautifully.

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Getting Past Your Story and Finding Your Voice with Jessica

Getting Past Your Story and Finding Your Voice with Jessica

May 20, 2019

Welcome to the show!

Today I have such a great guest with me.  Jessica has an incredible podcast where she helps women learn how to have more confidence, especially in the work place.  No doubt our work is very aligned.  But today is all about Jessica and the psychology of the voice story she's been unraveling in her life.

Jessica and I do some heavy sleuthing to get her some answers on where her voice habits that are no longer serving her have come from.  We dig deep and get the answers we are looking for, then we go to work fixing the things are getting in the way of Jessica getting to the next level.

I think you will love hearing from Jessica, I know I loved working with her.

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